If you’ve ever worried that someone you’re talking to isn’t who they claim to be, you’re not alone.
You’re not finding love, you’re being merchandised.
While you’re trying to build a real connection, the dating platforms quietly push you into a cycle of swiping, waiting, guessing, doubting, and repeating. Your attention is their currency, which grows by extending that attention.
Date Wisely shows you the hidden patterns behind the emotional fatigue you feel. It reveals how algorithms feed you unreliable matches, how social comparison destroys your confidence, and how smooth talkers use dating apps as hunting grounds.
Date Wisely gives you the tools to protect yourself and finally connect with real, trustworthy human beings again.
In this clear, practical, and reassuring guide, you’ll learn:
Whether you’re dating online for the first time or returning after bad experiences this book shows you how to stay safe without becoming cynical, and how to move confidently toward the relationship you really want.
Whitney Wolfe Herd, the founder of both Tinder and Bumble, became critical of the industry she helped to launch, saying it became “The more people here, the more money, the better” and asked “Are our members actually getting what they came here for? That question stopped being asked for too long. We were chasing growth. When you chase growth, you get it, but then you lose it.”
Ms. Herd continues, “You’re talking about the expectations on the [Wall] street and from investors … Seventy-nine percent report dating-app fatigue ... they’re getting on the apps and they’re not seeing who they want to see and they’re feeling two things... They’re feeling rejected and they’re feeling judged.”
Supporting that view, Business Insider quotes a dating app user: "… [originally] dating apps helped me find love. Now they've turned into a total scam."
Don’t just swipe. Don’t just hope. Protect yourself.And date wisely.
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